Survive, Alive, Thrive

Navigating the Journey from Loss to Hope to Happiness

ISBN-13: 9781948677752 | Formats: Hardcover
272 | Dimensions: 9x6x2 inches

More than 150 million Americans face the pain and confusion of loss every year, and most of us have no idea how to handle it. We’re thrown into the deep end of grief without a life preserver, desperately trying to stay afloat in a sea of shock, anger, frustration, heartbreak, and hopelessness.

Mark Negley knows what it’s like to face the pain of loss and fight to build a new life from the ashes. Over the past thirty years, he has faced cancer, raised a special needs child, lost his beloved mother, nearly lost his wife in a car accident, and supported her through depression and mental health issues resulting from her brain injuries. Tragically, in 2016, Mark received the biggest blow of all when his wife of twenty years took her own life.

Frustrated by the lack of relatable resources to help navigate his grief recovery, Mark set out to redefine the loss experience. After five years of research, in-depth interviews with loss survivors, and leading grief groups, he realized that the problem isn’t how we experience grief; the problem is that the prevailing, traditional model does not work for most people. He found that grief recovery isn’t a linear progression from one clearly defined emotional response to the next; rather, it’s a series of three concentric circles—like ripples in a pond—that emanate from a center point of impact. Each of those circles contain multiple emotions to form three “interconnected” stages on the recovery journey called Survive, Alive, and Thrive.

In Survive-Alive-Thrive: Navigating the Journey from Loss to Hope to Happiness, Mark Negley takes you on a journey through his loss experiences, using his story and the stories of several others to teach his new model of grief recovery from a totally different perspective. You don’t have to walk this difficult road alone. With the help of Mark and others, you can navigate from loss to hope and then to happiness. You don’t have to settle for survival! Set your sights higher and learn how to thrive again!

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“[Survive-Alive-Thrive is a] riveting story and a moving testimony to God’s grace and presence when we need Him most. As someone who has found lasting hope in my own personal walk through the valley, I have been greatly encouraged by Mark’s story of triumphing amidst tragedy. I wholeheartedly agree that we find true joy by helping others through their struggles, as we have been helped through ours. This is a powerful book I encourage everyone to read!”
Ginny Owens
Singer/Songwriter & Author of Singing in the Dark: Finding Hope in the Songs of Scripture
[Survive-Alive-Thrive] is so powerful and moving I wish it had been required reading in my grief counseling classes in seminary! Personal and touching, Mark blends his inspiring story with useful, actionable suggestions for those going through the healing journey. Friends with whom I have shared my [advance] book did not want to give it back. It’s on my library bookshelf and will continue to be an important resource to others providing encouragement, insight, and inspiration. What a blessing.”
Chaplain Debbie Hunt-Scribner, M.Div.
Pastoral Counselor and Prayer Minister
Mark’s testimony of God’s peace in the midst of one of life’s greatest storms is not only inspiring but affirming. One of God’s greatest promises is that regardless of whatever this life throws at you [He] is in the center of it, ultimately leading to a joy-filled life. I can’t recommend this book enough. I laughed, I cried, and, in the end, I was filled with hope. You can’t put a price on that.”
Jeff Allen
Mark weaves brilliantly his own story of loss and grief into insights on personality and worldview theory, life experience with trauma, and family of origin factors. In doing so he moves us from weaker applications of linear grief work to a more holistic view of the process of finding joy in loss. What makes this more than abstract theory is Mark’s own journey of Survive, Alive, and Thrive.”
Dr. Chuck Davis
Leadership Coach, Professor, Pastor, & Author of Speak Up! Listen Up! and The Bold Christian

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About the Author

Mark S. Negley

Mark is passionate about supporting others through difficult life experiences and serves as Founder and Executive Director of the non-profit Inspired to share the power of God’s love, his ministry includes speaking at public and private events, facilitating grief support groups, hosting a podcast and writing a blog for the organization’s website. Raised in the suburbs of Chicago, Mr. Negley is also President of management consulting firm PondHouse LLC, where he leverages 20 years of experience in senior leadership and management roles to guide his clients. Mark is a widower and the proud father of son Andersen. He was blessed to re-marry in 2020, and currently resides in Franklin, Tenn., with his wife, Melyn.


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From Chapter 12:

Coping with Setbacks and Loss

There’s no way to sugarcoat it: life is freakin’ hard. It punches you in the face, waits for you to get up, and then punches you again. That is the nature of life. In fact, I’ve written this book through the spring and summer of 2020, a year that has been marked by an unprecedented global pandemic. This has been a hard year for many, many people around the world. Not only have hundreds of thousands lost their lives to COVID-19, but exponentially more have lost their incomes, jobs, health insurance, personal freedoms, and any sense of normalcy or security. In short, many people have lost their hope this year.

As I watch the news or check in with friends, I see that some people are living in fear right now. They’re “hunkered in a bunker,” waiting for the storm to pass. However, those of us who have been through terrible loss know a secret: even when the storm passes, another will roll in sooner or later. Again, that’s the nature of life: it punches us in the face . . . repeatedly. I recently heard legendary Rocky star Sylvester Stallone—no stranger to getting punched in the face—say, “Nobody punches harder than life. Life is undefeated. You can’t beat it. You just have to go on the defensive.” If you’re reading this book, you already know that, because you or someone you love has just been knocked down by loss and you’re on your knees searching for answers and support. The life you have known, the relationships and balance that once brought you such comfort, have been shaken, and now you’re struggling.